While my current webmaster, who I adore, doesn't always get things done right on time, I can feel that it is not due to resistance or a fear of being controlled.
He is a man of honor and tries his best to do what he says he will do. His caring and sense of integrity make all the difference to me. I lose respect for people whose word doesn't mean anything to them. I end up feeling manipulated when someone says they are going to do something and then doesn't do it. Of course, I give them leeway at the beginning.
There may be a good reason they didn't do what they said they were going to do. But if it happens over and over, I accept that I can't rely on them and my respect for them goes down.
If you want to feel respected by others, then you need to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no, and not allow your fear of rejection or your fear of being controlled to get in the way of being a trustworthy person. We cannot feel worthy when we let ourselves down by letting others down.
People who renege on their word do not value themselves enough to act with integrity. Is resistance to being controlled really more important than your self-worth? Are you kidding yourself that you can feel inwardly worthy when you don't keep your commitments?
Self-worth is the result of treating ourselves and others with caring and respect. Personal Power Personal power is the result of behaving in ways we value. He wanted to marry Anne Boleyn, the sister of his former mistress.
I was so impressed by Moore, whose sense of principle was such that he chose to die rather than lose his integrity. He was a man of great personal power, greatly loved by his family and the people. Unfortunately, most of us have a historical string of broken promises to ourselves. The fact is keeping promises to yourself show you respect and consider yourself as important as others. And you are as important as others. If you promise to go on a no sugar diet for the next week — avoid foods with sugar such as candy, bakery goods and carbohydrates such as pasta, pizza, potatoes, and white rice.
This is every bit as important as meeting your child at school on time. If your word to yourself is to exercise over the next month by taking a minute brisk walk each day, then keeping this commitment is as vital as visiting your friend in hospital when you said you would. Your unconscious mind is what keeps you in the same continual patterns and habits, and if you are continually not following through on your word, then your unconscious mind does not take you seriously and will offer the same old way of following through on your word - doing absolutely nothing!
Start simple. Start a daily journal , and write out five tasks you want to achieve each day the night before or in the morning. Things like walking the dog, calling a friend, and reading a chapter in a book are fine. As you complete each activity during the day tick it off. Next day do whole thing again. Go to TOI. The Times of India. Sachin Tendulkar's son Arjun Tendulkar's diet and gym routine.
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